A: Once you decide if you will have a small, intimate wedding or a grand, extravagant one and where the wedding and reception will be held, things get a little easier. Find out how many people can comfortably - and legally - fit into the location(s). Once you have the sites booked where you’ll be celebrating, you and your soon-to-be spouse need to each make a list of potential guests. Ask your parents to do the same. Once all lists are completed, merge the lists (omitting duplicate entries, of course) and see how many people you have on the one list. From here you can see if you need to start cutting down the count. Something to remember is that as a general rule of thumb, 25 percent of those invited will be unable to attend for various reasons. To determine the actual number of invitations you’ll need, keep in mind that one invitation should be sent to each family (single household) with the exception of children 18 and older, they should get their own; each married couple; and each couple in a relationship that live together can be sent a single invitation, as well.
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Q: I’ve heard that it’s proper for local friends and family to receive invitations, but I’ve also been told that it’s totally up to me. I want to do what’s right for my wedding, but I don’t want to go overboard and spend way too much money on locally sent invitations. How do I handle this?
A: Ideally and traditionally all wedding guests get invitations, regardless if they live right next door or across the big pond. By doing so, you’re ensuring that everyone has your complete wedding information in writing. If you’re having a relatively small celebration and feel it’s enough to let everyone know with a simple note or phone call, that’s fine. But if you’re having a relatively big (or even medium-sized) wedding - and it sounds like you are if you’re differentiating between local guests and out-of-towners - it’s best to ''officially'' invite everyone on your guest list. If you’re concerned about invitation costs, choose a simple invite and go with a printing process other than engraving.